Can relationships that started off as affairs really last? If your relationship has started as an affair and you are wondering if you should follow through with this relationship and leave your spouse, make one hundred percent sure that you have taken into consideration all the consequences of such a move.
Changing an affair into a long term relationship is very difficult because your relationship has started off with you both lying and cheating. Another thing is would you be able to trust each other knowing that you have both cheated once, what is to say this will not happen again? Even if you feel that you would be able to conquer this, there are a lot of other issues to consider.
One of the hardest situations to work through is if there are children involved. Children find it very difficult to accept the person who broke up their parents marriage. A child will forgive and forget that one of their parents cheated, but they will always blame the other man or woman who ended their parents marriage.
All relationships start off hot and passionate, but the big thing is to keep this passion alive. Think back, your marriage probably started off the same way too and look where you are now. It is important to remember that when you are having an affair you feel free, the reason for this is that you are not sharing any responsibility. Unfortunately it is the day to day responsibilities that usually cause the problems between couples. Your brand new 'soul mate' will not be brand new in a couple of years time, you have to be realistic, because every day life will work its way into any relationship.
At the end of the day, after you have considered all the facts, the one question that remains is, do you still love your spouse …. If you honestly believe in your heart that you no longer have feelings for your spouse, ( and I do not mean the fireworks etc that fades with any relationship, I am talking about true, solid feelings) then tomorrow all the pain it will cause it might be better to end the relationship because you will be doing them a favor in the long run.
If you decide to end your marriage do not reveal the reason for your decision. Breaking off a marriage because an affair is one secret that you should keep to yourself. Be as sympathetic as possible when you let your partner know that the marriage is over.
Relationships that have started as an affair almost never work, but if the two of you have decided that you have an intense love for each other and that your marriage has been going sour for a while, you might as well give it a try. Do not cause unnecessary pain, do not let on that you met each other while you were both married to other people.